I read a post once that said that Carol wouldn’t be good for Daryl because she quietly understands him but doesn’t “push him.” I know a lot of focus on the Caryl dynamic is that they were both abused and I think that it should be. Prolonged physical and emotional abuse effects a person long after the abuse ends (if it ever does) and it plays a huge role in how they interact with other group members.
ok getting off my chest time
I’m gonna say first of all that I read a message on someones blog calling Carylers ‘man-haters who only love Carol’ and I was like ‘what’. I assumed it was a guy because I don’t like think that there are women that think this way buuut then I see women defending Ray Rice for beating on his wife and dragging her through a casino so I don’t know. But getting off track here.
Why do people assume this? Because we, like Carol dare to question Rick’s decisions on occasion. I realize he supposedly the MAN in charge and therefore always right *insert sarcasm*. Questioning Rick’s decisions, does not mean we hate him, I in fact love Rick myself, it means that we do not assume everything he does is right. It’s not. Questioning a man in so-called authority, doesn’t mean you hate men, or don’t respect them. I question my boss sometimes, dosen’t mean I hate him or don’t respect him. It means that when he’s wrong I’m going to tell him.
Believing in the ideal of what feminism originally stood for, i.e. equality not inferiority or even superiority, means that I and others will question men’s decisions and if they are a real man they will respect that. It’s about respect. That’s all.
Now labeling Carylers as ‘man-haters’ is quite insulting to me personally cause the ones I associate with are nothing of the sort. We all love Daryl AND Carol as separate characters with their own storylines and we put them together because we like the dynamic they have. Daryl respects Carol, he respects ALL the women he encounters and dosen’t treat them as inferior to him. It’s one of the reasons he’s my favorite character on the show. One of many actually ;)
We like and talk up Carol because she is her own person, has her storyline SEPARATE from he male counterpart. She is not perfect by an y means, but that’s what makes her REAL to us. Her relationship with Daryl (whatever the nature of it) is not central to her character, but an addition to it. And it is base on love, trust, and equality. The emotional support these 2 damaged souls give to eachother is second to none, but it is not all that defines their characters.
Which leads me to my last point here, maybe a somewhat controvesial for some. And it involves the fact that to be totally honest, is the main problem I have with Beth.
I will confess to not even remembering her name until at least halfway through Season 3. I just knew he as Herchel’s younger daughter, who occasionally sang and took care of the baby. She barely registered to me. Its not that I didn’t like her it’s just that I was indifferent to her. You didn’t see much about her at all, anywhere to be honest. This is not her fault she just didn’t stand out.
And now all of a sudden she is so very important. Why? Because she spent 3 episodes with Daryl, the most popular male character on the show. People are pairing her with him and now she’s everywhere. And this bothers me. Cause why wasn’t she important before? Why did it have to take her spending time with Daryl and being shipped with him for suddenly be an important character?
She’s hasn’t been developed fully as character yet. Hasn’t gotten a chance to be her own person yet, and the main reason she gets brought up now is because of her ‘relationship (whatever that is) with Daryl. Nothing like defining a female character through her relationship, or importance to a man. On a show where the women are defined by their own character and treated equally, this is an anomaly that bothers me.
(I already wrote a post about the whole ‘sprained ankle, needed to be carried’ thing so I won’t rehash it but it has similar points)
I want to see Beth with her own story, separate of the whole ‘will Daryl find her i.ec save her’ line that I hear alot. I want to see Beth save herself and become a stronger character. She can do it and she dosen’t need Daryl’s help for that. I am interested to know how she develps and becomes her own person, before I ever have a willingness to really love her and ship her with anyone. Lets see how things go shall we?